January 8, 2010

The Right Relationship - The Truth About Right And Wrong Relationships

Figuring out if you are in the right relationship is an issue that many people go through on a daily basis and in many cases, people never really figure it out and suddenly find themselves a lifetime later still happily married to the same person.

Why is it that people actually think like this. Well in actual fact, it's a pretty natural thought especially for those people who have just fought a battle to get back in what they thought was the right relationship after a break up only to realize they may have made a mistake.

If you are in this situation right now then it's a scary place to be. You think you love the person you're with and you fought hard to get back in their life but there are still seeds of doubt you cannot shake. What can you do?

How To Know If You Are In The Right Relationship

Let's take a look at several suggestions to help you figure out if you are in the right relationship. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to know, it basically gets down yo you and your instincts. But here are a few tips to help you along.

#1. There are questions you can ask and one of the most obvious ones is are you happy being with your partner? Or does this person make me feel happy? If you answer yourself honestly and the general feeling you have is a positive one then this is more than likely the right relationship.

#2. Does doubt about being in this relationship make you feel guilty? No, because if you're general feeling is a positive one then it should counter-act any small negative feeling. One small bad feeling shouldn't be the catalyst for a trial separation.

#3. Do negative or sad thoughts mean you need to re-think relationship? Does this reflect your relationship? Again not necessarily. Most couples have setbacks and it's normal to think crazy thoughts such as "I'll leave" or "I don't think she/he is right for me" when you have had a difference of opinion. Your pride is hurt but the good thing is it can disappear very quickly.

#4. How about when your mind wanders to another person? There are many times when many people will often think about someone else and what it would be like to have gone down that route in the relationship stakes. Well, if many people think like this then what does that tell you. It's normal human behavior. The difference between someone who is in the right relationship and someone who isn't is the ability to switch those thoughts off in an instant. If they are with you 24 hours a day then you have to have doubts the current relationship is right.

#5. Do you think this is a safe relationship? As a woman, feeling safe is a big issue so do you feel physically safe with your partner? How about emotionally? Women look for security including emotional security so how do you feel about your partner's ability to protect you from any kind of harm?

#6. One problem you may be having is thinking about break up on a constant basis. Is this healthy? If you do then there are insecurities there either from past relationships or the current one. Has your partner cheated before? Do you think they are cheating now? If you spend a lot of time thinking and worrying about this then this may not be the right relationship to be in.

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